I just waited you feel & change

SA all, miss u bardo. bad2t ashok en feeh 7ad be boss 3ala el blog dah .  Anyway, I enjoy writing. El 7aga el wa7eda elly myd2ny, en kol my activities 3ala el computer :S. 7aga *****.

title is confusing again?!!

Since first year, I do not know why, but I used to give people nicknames. This is so bad habit. Mara kont mashy, we 2olt le w7ada a nickname tabe3y le esmha, lafet sa7ebtha we 2ltly na3m . really embarrassing. May be first year is special for me, I juat wish to be near from whole people.

Anyway, years passed.  I used in little period to say “ya 7agga” & “ya 3am el 7agg” for people. 3adaaat sodaah .  One day, I called a college, “Ya 7agga”, fa bassetl we 2ltly, law sam7t do not call me with this name. Week later, I called her with her nickname, she came and told me, please, I do not like guys nickname me, just call me with my name. I respected her opinion, and never called her any thing except her name.

1 year later, I graduated. One day, thinking with myself, I found that for many reasons, we should not (guys) nickname them. It is really a bad idea. The easiest way to imagine it, is to think that someone is calling ur sister in a nickname (specially law kan dal3 awi). Do not know why I realized that so late.

So, I decided to iterate over my MSN contact list, finding people who I am frequently talking with to tell them, I will stop nicknaming you and give some reasoning if someone asked, BUT two strange things happened.

One girl told me that, she just waited till I feel it is not good to nickname her and waited me to change and just call her with here name because she do not like to be nicknamed by guys.

The question is WHY some one yetakabal other people faults and just yest7melhom; waiting them to feel & change?!!!

The second girl was the most strange, she did a fighting with me “What? you will stop calling me ****, mashi zay ma te7eb, we ana kaman just h2olak mostafa….”, el mohem a3det tet5ane2 ma3ya enny habtal, we 7asestny eny b2olaha dah a5er yom fe zameltna we keda . we a3dt at7yel 3alyha. 3 days later, I managed enny asl7ha.

One week ago, she came, and told me something strange.  She said she will open topic, and do not want me to misunderstand. She said that she do not like me to nickname her at all, and she always est7melt 3shan matez3lnesh.  She did not like nicknames, nor things like “saba7 el 5air ya gameel aw ya 3asal”. tab3an etganent, da enty 3amla ma3ya 5en2a men kam shhr fato. 2llet en el yom dah 7aslha 7aga we7sha, we masd2et l2et 7ad tet5ane2 m3ah .

Anyway, I back to ask same question:

WHY some one yetakabal other people faults and just yest7melhom; waiting them to feel & change?!!!

In fact it is not a problem in these 2 girls, it is a problem in Egyptians behavior.

Why a mother accept to be “mother and half man” in her house while here husband is just acting as “half man” backing from work, eating and jumping on bed ignoring anything. Ignoring his wife & kids needs & problems. And she have to care with kids & solve all their problems. She should always go to doctors, teachers…etc. Suddenly, the mother is exploded; “You r not a man at all, you are not responsible for any thing, you have no blood, my kids live as if they are orphans …….”

Why a father accept to be “father and half mother” in his house while her wife acting as “half woman” backing from her work late & tired doing anything in her house in a very bad way(karwta).  You will find a bad food or delivery food. You will find kids take money to buy food in school. You will find the husband in a world, and she is in her own world. Why the husband have to find solutions to gab his wife absence in a way or other. Suddenly, the father is exploded; “You are the worst woman on the earth, where is our life? Where is ur care with kids? look to ur role in our life, you r nothing 4 us….” Rabena yoster we mayremesh el yemeen .

ana zeh2t men el post dah, let’s finish it.

WHY some one yetakabal other people faults and just yest7melhom waiting; them to feel & change?!!!

This is a big problem in Egyptian behavior, some times, there are people that accept other faults without saying even one word. What if this person just think “There is no problem at all”. Why do not make alerts to make every thing clear. “Please do not say that”, “Please do not do that”, or “please I can’t bear all of that”!!!!

Why most of our houses is filled with “Where is ur role in my life”. Why a woman accept her husband to come and sleep or got to coffee with friends while lefting all problems to here to solve it. Why a man let her wife go to work and deep in it, she think every thing is fine, while the house is about to be destroyed. Why a son (specially girls) have some time to do ervey thing in home (lefting her study or any stuff) just to serve others, while others still can offer a help or at least ask for just basic things.

Why we wait until others feel with is and start to change to be better. Why each one do not determine clearly what he want?. Why do not we object on faults from the beginning?!!

If I have a wife who really like our home, once I blamed her about not caring with me & our kids, then she will change. Absolutely she will change. Why should I wait till an explosion inside me happen?!!!

Question needs answers & Problem nees solutions!!!